Hey guys, it’s Allison here. As a guy who’s explored the wilder sides of intimacy, I know that diving into anal play as the receiver can feel like uncharted territory. But trust me, with the right approach, it can be an incredibly rewarding experience that deepens your connection and amps up the pleasure. Today, we’re talking about training your partner—let’s call him “him” for this guide—to perform anal play on you. This is all about your progression as the receiver, emphasizing comfort, communication, and his obedient, attentive role. No rushing, no pressure—just a fun, step-by-step journey that puts you in control.
Think of this as building a skill set together, like learning a new sport. You’re the coach, he’s the eager player. The key? Patience, lube (lots of it), and open dialogue. We’ll break it down into phases, so you can ease in at your own pace. Remember, this is for adults who are consenting and excited—safety and enjoyment first!
Step 1: Lay the Foundation with Open Talks and Prep
Start outside the bedroom. Grab a beer or coffee and chat about your interests. Explain why you’re curious—maybe it’s the intense sensations or the vulnerability that turns you on. Share articles or videos (discreetly sourced) to normalize it. Set ground rules: safe words (like “yellow” for slow down, “red” for stop), hygiene (showers for both), and STI testing if needed.
For him: Emphasize his role in obedience. He’s there to follow your lead, listening to your body language and verbal cues. Make it playful—tell him, “You’re my trusted explorer; I guide, you obey.” Prep solo first: Use a small plug or finger on yourself to get comfy. Recommend water-based lube and start with external massage. Goal? Build anticipation without penetration yet. This phase might take a week or two—enjoy the tease!
Step 2: External Exploration and Gentle Introduction
Once you’re both hyped, move to hands-on. Lie back relaxed, maybe with some mood lighting or your favorite playlist. Guide his hands to your outer areas—perineum, cheeks—for massages. Use plenty of lube to make it slick and fun.
Instruct him clearly: “Slower, circles here.” His obedience shines when he mirrors your requests without improvising. Introduce a gloved finger or small toy externally. Breathe deeply—inhale relaxation, exhale tension. If it feels good, praise him: “That’s perfect, keep going.” Sessions should be short, 10-15 minutes, ending on a high note. Debrief after: What worked? What to tweak? This builds his confidence in pleasing you exactly as you want.
Step 3: Gradual Penetration and Building Intensity
Now, level up. Start with one finger, well-lubed, inserting slowly—maybe just the tip at first. You’re in charge: “Pause there” or “A bit deeper.” Focus on prostate stimulation if that’s your jam; it can lead to mind-blowing orgasms. Introduce slim toys or plugs, graduating sizes over sessions.
His careful obedience is crucial— no sudden moves. Make it enjoyable by incorporating other pleasures, like oral or stroking, to associate anal with total bliss. Track progress in a fun journal: “Session 5: Nailed the angle!” If discomfort arises, backtrack without shame. Aim for 3-4 sessions per week, but listen to your body.
Step 4: Advanced Play and Full Integration
Once comfortable with fingers/toys, explore more—like beads, vibrators, or even strap-ons if that’s your vibe. Experiment with positions: On your back for eye contact, or doggy for deeper access. Always prioritize your receiver-focused progression—it’s about what feels amazing for you.
Celebrate milestones! His obedience evolves into intuitive mastery, reading your moans and movements. Keep communicating; desires change. And hygiene tip: Enemas if you want, but not necessary—fiber-rich diet helps.
Guys, this isn’t just about the act; it’s about trust and empowerment. By training him this way, you’re creating a dynamic where his attentiveness makes you feel like a king. If done right, it’ll spice up your sex life exponentially. Remember, everyone’s pace differs—mine took a month to feel fully at ease, but the payoff? Worth it.
Stay safe, have fun, and own your pleasure!